Thursday, April 27, 2023

Violas and Oddities

I picked up a little pot of violas at the grocery store. I find them delightful, and they do speak of spring. Eventually, I grabbed a couple of macros.



I also came across another curious post in our Buy Nothing group. It leaves me with questions and causes me to shake my head, just a bit.


I also have questions about ↓ this.


While I do my best to use appropriate pronouns with much loved someone in my circle. I do find it odd that one person approached a stranger person and asked what pronouns to use. I mean I haven't yet come across a case when the appropriate pronoun to use when talking directly to someone isn't "you."

I do note, however that the gesture was appreciated, so that is good, but I still do find it a bit odd.

25 comments:

Patio Postcards said...

Pansies do have have such happy little faces & I find that a pot at the door greets every one with a spring smile.

Boud said...

That comment about the encounter is probably best filed as " never happened, trans phobe in search of an audience."

Jenn Jilks said...

I hear you! My grandie has a non-binary best friend. I am still learning to use the correct pronouns. My daughter corrected me, as she should.
We've little violets in the garden. Lovely to see.

Beatrice P. Boyd said...

The violas were lovely photo subjects and in 2 of my favorite colors as well. The ad was an unusual one and the gas station exchange was curious.

Jeanie said...

The violas are perfect. I hate to say this but I think I'm too old to care about pronouns...

Debby said...

That little anecdote? I would have thought that the woman was 'fishing'.

I love violas.

MARY G said...

Second macro, for my taste.
Old style pronouns for my taste. I hate the lack of agreement to go to the plural.
Luckily, as you say, you is clear.
Sigh.

Margaret said...

I like pansies but they do go everywhere! My late husband told me no more when we were finding them growing in the front yard like a weed. I work at the pronouns but they/their/them as a singular continues to confound me.

RedPat said...

Love the pansies. I have resisted buying any so far as then they are in the way when it is time to plant other things and so I leave them to fight it out with the next batch of flowers.

Ed said...

I'll have to pay attention but I'm not sure I use any pronouns when meeting someone for the first time. I just say my name is "Ed", what is yours? Then on subsequent meetings, I just go by the name they gave me. Usually I only use pronouns when referring to someone in third person.

William Kendall said...

Those are lovely.

roentare said...

It is a beautiful use of bokeh here

Marie Smith said...

If the pronouns are an issue, I hope the person would tell me what to use.

Granny Sue said...

Pretty flowers, and hilarious anecdotes! People can be so odd. I am reminded of an ad I saw in a newspaper that covered a very rural area: "Looking for a good woman possibly to marry. Must have tractor."

The Furry Gnome said...

Pronouns shmonouns, I just can't deal with it.

peppylady (Dora) said...

I haven't been ask what pronoun I use. But I live in less of populate area.
First name is fine, with me.

Coffee is on and stay safe.

PipeTobacco said...

I am fine with varied pronouns, and for folks who want a pronoun that is not he or she….. I would be happy to use their preferred pronoun. However, I do think “they” is a poor choice for a singular pronoun. It creates in the mind of most folks, a discordance due to its traditional use as plural. Discordance in speaking or writing is not usually effective in communication. So, I truly WISH there would be made a new pronoun that all could agree with to use INSTEAD of “they” as a singular designated pronoun. And, sincerely, I believe a newly crafted pronoun would be more appropriate for the significance of the gender identity role.

IMO as it is currently, “they” in that context muddies communication…. whereas a new pronoun would both clarify communication, and lead to less confusion and less focus on pronouns. The folks who need this pronoun would, IMO become more integrated overall with this new pronoun.

PipeTobacco

Joanne Noragon said...

My grandchildren tell me what pronouns any new to me person is using. As for the rest of us, we're so sold we ony know the ones we were taught in kindergarten, or earlier.

Marcia said...

Dan and I were talking about the car. I thought he had been referring to the car as a she but he thinks he's been using he. We decided it was the best pronoun to use. Never had the occasion to ask someone the pronoun they preferred.

I love pansies. They do winter over here which I find amazing.

Vicki Lane said...

Cheerful little faces on the violas. Asking pronouns seems as weird as asking someone What ARE you anyway?

gigi-hawaii said...

Well, some women look like men.....

DB Stewart said...

Those flower faces always get me.
As for pronouns, I love grammar, and people.

peppylady (Dora) said...

I think will soon about pronouns.
Coffee is on and stay safe.

Bindu said...

Sometimes, it is better to ask than guessing

Kay said...

Gorgeous violas! Asking for a person's pronouns is really weird.