Tuesday, February 14, 2006

About My Valentine

Recently, I have read two blogs, Wondering! and Simply Coll, that described how they met their spouse. I thought that it would be a theme that I could pick up for Valentines Day, and the day has arrived. Since I have no present to obtain or give to my loved one out here in the backwoods, perhaps these few recollections will suffice.

The year was 1967. Yes, Virginia we're pretty doggone old.

It was a Friday night after Young Peoples meeting. We were all at somebody's house for some sort of a get-together. Somehow, Cuppa and I ended up beside each other. Although we had been part of the same Young People's group for some time, we had moved in different circles in this rather large group; so we had never really gotten to know one another.

We probably didn't chat a whole lot that Friday night either, it being a large crowd and all, but I do remember that the the topic of the next day's Sunday School picnic came up. Seems odd I know; there, we were, almost twenty years old , talking about a kids picnic. I had not made definite plans to go, but she had, and she thought that I should go too — more or less invited me.

As you might imagine, not a whole pile of youth attended the picnic, so it was somewhat natural that Cuppa and I would find each other and spend some time together. Mind you, I'm pretty sure that I would have hunted her down in a huge crowd, as I more or less did some time later, but that is another story.

We went off for a walk in the park. I bought her a popscicle. Hero that I am, I held her hand to help her cross a little creek by hopping from rock to rock. I don't think I let go once we got across though. I sure hope that I didn't, sure hope that I was really as smart as I thought I was at the time.

We were married within two years. We were too young. I was still in university. It was dumb. The odds were stacked, not in our favour. But it worked. Almost thirty-nine years after that Friday night and Saturday afternoon, we are still together, almost joined at the hip as it were. We're friends; we're lovers ... still that, still now.

I don't think we've ever had what others would call a fight. We're human, and we do have our misunderstandings and disagreements. Every now and then, maybe twice a year, we flatten our ears just a touch and raise our hackles just a tad. But we don't really hiss and spit, and we don't unsheathe our claws, and the fur never flies.

She's a good woman, a kind soul: compassionate, friendly, generous, and ... well, I'm no good at long lists, but you get my drift. The day will come when one of us will remain here for a while longer while the other's spirit is released from its mortal coil. The one whose lot it is to remain behind will have a lonely void that cannot be filled ... except, in part, by a lifetime of pleasant memories for which to be grateful.



Tossing Pebbles in the Stream said...

Not enough to be the basis of a torrid romance novel! It seems to have worked for you two.

It is nice to hear two people can have a long life together and remain civil without hateful tone or word. I have a marriage like that but sadly, for reasons I will never understand, it didn't last.

Congratulations for confirming, it can be done!

madcapmum said...

Lovely post, and a very nice tribute to your beloved. I'm all in favour of peaceful waters under the bridge. We haven't been quite as unruffled as you two, but close, and it's been 10 years. I'm blessed.

Bonita said...

A nice tribute to your beloved Cuppa. Mature love with its lessons learned through the years is a rich blessing.

Simply Coll said...

This is lovely A/C. Both you and Cuppa are equally blessed. A very happy Valentines Day to you both.

Lora said...

What a lovey post and a lovely salute to your relationship.

Gina said...

To one of my favorite couples, Happy Valentines Day.

I often think about my grandparents, who have been married for over 60 years, and wonder what will happen to one when the other passes away. I do so hope that they are able to look at it as stoically as you describe.

Valerie - Riding Solo said...

May you both love long and well.

It's so nice to know another couple with true love in their lives smart enough to know it and treasure it.

Debra said...

What a great post! Thanks so much for telling us your story... Debra

Judy said...

What a blessed life you have!

Mel said...

I hope to follow in your footsteps. What a lovely story.