Thursday, December 18, 2025

The Juxtaposition of Good and Evil

I wasn’t going to post of this incident, for it might smack of me being highly self-congratulatory. In fact, I wasn’t planning to post at all today, thinking that you might need a break from me. And maybe you do. :)

But when I clicked onto Sandra’s blog and listened to a very distraught lady’s very emotional response to dear leader here, I changed my mind. 

In her short, emotional interview, in addition to being angry and distraught, she talked of the juxtaposition of good and evil in human behaviour.

It made me think of yesterday, when I believe that I did a good thing but did it in the midst of a kind of evil. Perhaps that is the wrong word because evil tends to denote purposeful malevolence, so let me just call it sadly unfortunate.

We don’t see too many down-and-outers (I assume homeless) in our town, so when I do, I am moved. Yesterday, we passed a man standing with a huge cart piled high with garbage bags containing, I presume, all of his worldly belongings. Because such sights are few and far between here, encountering people who need assistance, is somewhat emotional for me. And because I am not required to reach into my pocket often, I was able to offer him something.

He wasn’t begging and wasn’t even looking in my direction when I passed by, so that is what I did — passed by. I wanted to offer him something, but I didn’t want to make a show of it. Once past, I fumbled for my wallet and pulled out a twenty. Then, I turned back to him, tapped him on the shoulder and asked, “Would this help you?”

He said that indeed it would. I simply patted him on the shoulder and kept on walking. 

So, I guess that was a kind thing to do and was all that I could reasonably do. But I should not have had to do it. Society should be able to better help those who need help in this life, for my belief is that people cannot help what they are. If someone can’t fit into society in the normal way, that someone is still a someone and, as such, is deserving of a decent existence. 

I had a grand uncle whom I never met. He was a brother of my grandfather. He was a paraplegic, I think born that way. I have seen pictures, in which he appeared decently dressed and cared for. He was lucky in that way at least. Some people aren’t lucky, partly because the world has changed and the support of villages and of extended families has been lost for the most part. 

So that is what the lady in the interview was talking about, or at least how I related it to my own experience, the juxtaposition of good and evil that lies within humanity. I think it is a good thing to reach out a helping hand if and when we are able, but the reality that we allow great needs to endure is a rather evil thing.

(I hesitated to post these rudimentary thoughts as perhaps being too maudlin or self-aggrandizing, but, as is plain to see and for better or worse, I did come back and hit that Publish button.)


26 comments:

  1. I just read another blog where the blogger talked about Freud and living life with ordinary unhappiness. I try to give when I can if I see someone who is on the streets - folks say don't do it because they use it for drugs/alcohol. But still, I give anyway.

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  2. Please please continue to post any little thoughts, especially things like this which are universal human experiences. Worth sharing! We are each capable of both sides of actions, compassionate or hateful. If our world hadn't been divided into tribes, the "us vs. them" way of looking at each other, we might not have anyone we feel hate towards. But right now I see certain politicians (all over the world) who really pull my hate-strings. So the trick for me is to see that their behaviors need to have consequences (as do any abusive people of any age)...and there might somehow be some redeeming qualities within them! Maybe...

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  3. My concern in giving cash where I often see a possible homeless person is that the recipient will spend it on drink or drugs. Our plaza has both a liquor store and two cannabis outlets. I have bought food, take-out after some consultation, mittens, socks. Our local health centre has a homeless person policy, and I do mean local, since we are so rural. Perth where I encounter these folk is working on it.
    No, I do not think your discussion is simplistic and it puts you in a very good light, if I may send a compliment. Too often, both individually and as a society, we pass by on the other side.

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  4. Isn't it interesting tgat we often feel guilty about mentioning a good deed we did, for the very fear you pinpointed: not wanting to seem self-congratulatory. How the man uses the money is his affair; you did what you thought was the right thing and to me that's what counts. I too have given money on occasion, if I had it. As to how the person uses it, well, how do we know how well charitable organizations use our donations? We hope they use it well, but can't know for sure.
    Our society certainly needs to make changes. Here locally we rarely see someone pushing a buggy as you describe, but both small cities near us have serious problems.

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  5. "the world has changed and the support of villages and of extended families has been lost"

    I think the reason is because our governments have taken over this responsibility and as our governments have shown, they are woefully inadequate to the task because they can't focus on individuals and when focused on the masses, they get taken advantage, abused , politicized, etc. We need to go back to communities and families helping those who are less fortunate where we have the advantage of focus but I'm not sure we can unwind things at this point.

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    1. The industrial revolution caused mass migration and upset the social fabric. The agricultural village has essentially been lost.

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  6. You did a good deed. This was your pass on after the woman tied your shoelaces the other day. Yours just took a different form.
    Here we see men and women standing at intersections holding homemade signs asking for donations. I have a hard time giving anything out on those occasions.

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    1. I never thought of that payback. Yes, multitudes of people requesting handouts would be beyond how anyone could help.

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  7. That was kind. You followed your heart, which is a good way to go. We have the sort that make a business out of holding the signs. To them, I'll admit I have a very grinchy heart.

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    1. Living in a smaller community makes it easier to help the very occasional person who stands out as unique.

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  8. Listening to her, seeing the raw emotion, hit me at my core, AC. However the man used the money, your giving it made a difference.

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  9. I appreciate your words and your character. Canada doesn't let down-and-out people collect and become subsumed in bare survival like US does. Glad you chose to post today. Aloha

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    1. and yes, US is fighting for our moral and civic survival right now. I believe good will prevail as we see the current occupant of our executive mansion flail and fail. Thank God they are not smart! The do not understand real people either who are figuring this out

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  10. I try to give when I can and think of my mom's words that once you give money (or anything), it is the recipient's to do with it what he or she wishes. Of course, we would rather have it help them eat or find shelter, but it's no longer our choice. We make a difference how and when we can and you did! By giving an unsolicited gift, you made that person's day brighter.

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  11. When I see a homeless person on the street, sometimes they are smoking or drinking alcohol. What they really need is food! In a case such as this I will give food, not money, because I myself do not smoke or drink alcohol, I certainly don't want to give money to someone who is going to use it for this purpose.

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  12. Codex: Because of you I'm posting mine. Anyone commenting, I do not permit discussions of politicians. Good AC that's the way to do it.

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  13. Sorry. Meant I do not permit discussion of politicians on my blog.

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  14. it's good to help when you can and when it's appreciated. There are a lot of homeless around where I live and my daughter and I have both helped out when asked and when we have more than we need. I think that's why most of the homeless around here are so friendly with us.

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  15. You are correct. One of the stark differences in the small area I live it, all of us on our ridge help any neighbor at any time.
    The pain of that lady's words rings so true.
    There are good people, it is just the not good people that are in the news.

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  16. This is a thoughtful and honest reflection that acknowledges personal kindness without losing sight of the deeper moral discomfort

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  17. Great post. You did a good deed. Around here there are boatloads of homeless. Some intersections will have at least three or four corners with homeless and their "need help" signs. I give when I feel the need but it is not to those on the street corners around here. We have a couple on one corner who I have seen getting in and out of a really nice truck when they are exchanging turns to stand at the corner. I am suspicious by nature but I'm sure a few of them could truly use help and aren't blowing it on drugs and alcohol. I like to shop at Thrift Stores and I will randomly pay for someone's items who look like they could use a little help.
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  18. We have some challenging problems which we don't seem to be able to solve. It's complicated.

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  19. The speaker in your link (Kathryn Grody, I believe) mentioned a "virus" overtaking some who seem to revel in cruelness. It's an apt metaphor. But many other things spread like viruses too including benevolence, just like your actions, just like your words. Love this, AC.

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  20. I'm glad you posted this, if only to remind how simple doing good can be.

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  21. When we give to others as you did, we can only hope it helps. The giving is the key! Well done!

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  22. I am glad you hit the publish button, thank you! I don't know why but I have this feeling that all this nastiness is going to backfire, it's going to make people realize the ugliness of awful people and hopefully will be the catalyst to being kinder to everyone. We need to help each other, like you did for that gentleman and bless you for it. We help when we are able, be it a money donation, food donation or our time. This is my hope and dare I say I am seeing positive signs, a ripple? I don't know but I sure hope so.

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