tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post116870309462785911..comments2024-03-28T13:11:03.006-04:00Comments on The AC is On: Listening to the ChildrenAnvilcloudhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07974744042579564912noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168828398502441802007-01-14T21:33:00.000-05:002007-01-14T21:33:00.000-05:00Hmmmm. I think it depends on the subject at hand....Hmmmm. I think it depends on the subject at hand. I do know that as parents we approach advice-giving much more gingerly than our son. Very thought-provoking post, AC.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168822537051782672007-01-14T19:55:00.000-05:002007-01-14T19:55:00.000-05:00"Anyway, they felt free to offer their advice. We ...<I>"Anyway, they felt free to offer their advice. We certainly didn't mind, and I took it. With adult children, it doesn't as easily work in reverse though, does it?"</I><BR/><BR/>Ah! It seems we are kindred spirits, my Canadian brother.. :) I know the feeling well.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, enjoy the concert Mr. Big-Spender. :)-epmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10290108507107672811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168820997554935022007-01-14T19:29:00.000-05:002007-01-14T19:29:00.000-05:00I HATE (sorry for yelling) unsolicited advice so I...I HATE (sorry for yelling) unsolicited advice so I try not to give it either. My children do ask advice on occasion and I ask them too. I'm always happy to hear that they've talked to other "experts" (besides me!) when they need advice. As I get older, I realize that I know less and less!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168796026422839102007-01-14T12:33:00.000-05:002007-01-14T12:33:00.000-05:00I am definitely in the "in between" phase and I, w...I am definitely in the "in between" phase and I, who used to go to concerts all the time, have not been to one in almost three years.<BR/><BR/>As for advice, I ask my Dad about a lot of technical stuff, cars and house problem type of things. <BR/><BR/>But I have to say, my parents don't really listen to me or my sister when we give them advice.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11604097511444010759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168795214742455442007-01-14T12:20:00.000-05:002007-01-14T12:20:00.000-05:00Nope, exactly the same! My son feels very free to...Nope, exactly the same! My son feels very free to give me advice, but doesn't want to even hear my opinion about most of his life. My older brother loves to give my Mom all sorts of advice, but gets huffy and disappears for several months if she should dare try to give him any!PBShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01672893473413051922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168789756781962972007-01-14T10:49:00.000-05:002007-01-14T10:49:00.000-05:00I'm probably not a good one to answer this, given ...I'm probably not a good one to answer this, given the family dynamic I come from ~ and the fact that I do not live in a family dynamic now. That makes my view of it rather open-ended. I'll take wisdom and knowledge wherever I can get it. :) <BR/><BR/><BR/>Peace, <BR/><BR/>~ChaniAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168751985241081412007-01-14T00:19:00.000-05:002007-01-14T00:19:00.000-05:00We go back and forth on "advice" too.Concerts are ...We go back and forth on "advice" too.<BR/><BR/>Concerts are obscenely expensive. I've been to two in the last 14 years (not counting Les Mis) and one of them was a prize for my contribution to Public Television.Grannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17283823157675990935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168750655843399422007-01-13T23:57:00.000-05:002007-01-13T23:57:00.000-05:00My parents and my in-laws do give advice, which I ...My parents and my in-laws do give advice, which I often appreciate. I'm to the stage where I do appreciate it, realizing how many more years of experience they have. They do ask for advice from us too at times, especially concerning modern things like computers, LOL. My in-laws depend on my DH quite a bit.Kilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09412146547477399452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168748257319685582007-01-13T23:17:00.000-05:002007-01-13T23:17:00.000-05:00Having three grown kids of my own I understand wha...Having three grown kids of my own I understand what you are saying. All of my children are independent and I rarely give advise unless they request it.. which they sometimes do. And even then, when I do offer words of wisdom, they are well thought out. I guess we work so hard at making our children independent .. that when they finally obtain this status we respect it by trusting their judgment.. except for those times.. as I say.. when they ask. This all sounds a little confusing but I think you get my drift. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168733447873138602007-01-13T19:10:00.000-05:002007-01-13T19:10:00.000-05:00It does have to do with areas of expertise, they w...It does have to do with areas of expertise, they willingly listen to my advice about electrical or phone wiring, especially if I am willing to come show them what I'm talking about. :) I too depend on my spell check very heavily. ecmreddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06866616193923580617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168731562045658602007-01-13T18:39:00.000-05:002007-01-13T18:39:00.000-05:00We all have different areas of expertise. I ask th...We all have different areas of expertise. I ask the truck driver son for best way to get places, the tech daughter for computer input and the best girl for animal lore and my mom for whatever I don't know the answer to that they ask me...LOL<BR/><BR/>It worksValerie - Still Riding Forwardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15148433989184665687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168723779218568142007-01-13T16:29:00.000-05:002007-01-13T16:29:00.000-05:00I find that leading by example works much better f...I find that leading by example works much better for our family than trying to give advice.<BR/>About the tickets...I almost fainted when I went to Palm Springs to visit friends and told them to "go ahead and buy my ticket for the "Fabulous Follies"." They did and it cost me $98. Even the movies in our area are getting pricey. Thank goodness for DVD players.Ginniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749133391349265563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168722783894337522007-01-13T16:13:00.000-05:002007-01-13T16:13:00.000-05:00My son and I go back and forth offering advice to ...My son and I go back and forth offering advice to one another. There are times he heeds said advice, and times he doesn’t. As for me, I usually listen to what he has to say. I might be a bit prejudice, but to me he seems wise beyond his years. He is able to see to the core of a problem, when I am unable to. <BR/><BR/>I suppose our family dynamics are quite different from yours. I was married when my son was born, but divorced shortly afterward. My ex-husband wasn’t in the picture much, though my parents and brother most certainly were. Not that I was young when I had him, but it seems like we raised each other, which I think makes for a very interesting relationship. But I agree that it is probably more common for parents to accept advice from adult children than vice versa. It certainly is in my family. <BR/><BR/>Excellent post, it really made me think.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6998770.post-1168713269647784382007-01-13T13:34:00.000-05:002007-01-13T13:34:00.000-05:00Oh, I dunno... I'm closer to an age that starts wi...Oh, I dunno... I'm closer to an age that starts with a "4" than a "3". My older brother tells me I'll always be the little kid who knew exactly when to turn on the TV for Sesame Street and I think my Dad will always see me as his "little girl", in some ways.<BR/><BR/>Everyone else in the family seems to realize that I'm all grown up, strong and have a mind of my own (too much at times, I'm afraid.)<BR/><BR/>I think you're just too darned open-minded!<BR/><BR/>And btw... Rankins tix were only $60 there? I think they were more in Calgary. Grrr... <BR/><BR/>We'll have to compare notes after we go to the concert!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com